Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Strength to carry on……


Photographs like this always tear your heart apart. A departing soldier, who is also a father, a son, a husband, a friend. Though this is a photograph of an American soldier leaving for Iraq but it nevertheless invokes the same dreadful feeling of uncertainty.

We all know that the job of a soldier is not an easy one there is always a certain level of risk involved. But the training imparted to them prepares them to face any given situation. Sometimes these trainings closely resemble what they might experience in a war. But what about the wives and the situations at home? Separations and field postings are the real test of an army wife. And it's not an easy task I must say. Husband's separation along with an emotionally fragile child it is suddenly too much to handle.

Two years is a long time to manage. So I decided to stay at a place where I have a bunch of good friends. This decision helped me immensely because I know the shoulders I can lean on. I already had a steady job and it actually keeps me distracted. There are few friends who are finding it extremely difficult to do even the smallest of tasks in their husband’s absence. To them I would say plan some activities, get involved in your children or join some new courses. It really helps, brooding wont!!
As army wives we must bear in mind that we will have to sooner or later face separation. And what more can husbands ask for than having a strong pillar of strength for wife. I know there are times when you feel too overwhelmed by emotions, I too feel the same most of the times, but there’s nothing I can do. On the other hand it makes the children more vulnerable. They are very emotionally susceptible when father is away and a depressed mom makes them more psychologically fragile. Although it’s just been few months but this is one main lesson I have learnt, because its anytime better than to handle a upset and troubled child.

I am trying to be strong with some great friends and great books but lets see how long I manage. Sometimes I am not too sure myself……..

5 comments:

Vaishnavi said...

Cheerios!!
u are a strong wife. I know u'll sail through

Katie said...

Pl if you could do a follow-up to this write up giving detailed suggestions, ... I would feel like there is some hope to this problem of isolation during seperations that so many of us suffer from.
I look for the matter on the web but nothing seems to work.

Yogander said...

It is indeed heart warming to read Ambreen, who shows courage and fortitude in managing in absence of her husband.

Suryakant Jadhav said...

Ambreen that was great. My compliments.You could take the initiative to form a group of like minded people who could guide and and counsel not only officers wives but enlarge the scope to soldiers wives, who must be having more difficulties with meagre resources and hardly any support sysytem.
Once again compliments and best wishes.

Anonymous said...

Nice to read something like this every once in a while......i completely understand you n ur emotions as I'm an army wife too.i sailed through the separation n didn't allow depression to get to me with my two amazing sons aged 6 and 2 then.And I also kept myself neck deep in work so I could get very little time for myself and to crave for moments with him.......